Society's Standard of a Good Man


 A few days ago I was listening to a Podcast with Ayesha Curry (Steph Curry’s Wife), where she mentioned something that I can definitely relate to and probably some of you can as well. When asked the question “Do you agree with the media that Steph Curry is whipped?” She answered and said, “Absolutely not! Why is it when a man respects his wife he’s whipped?”.

Ayesha curry's response was just perfect! But really? Why is it when a man respects a woman he is considered whipped? Ladies, please do not conform to society's standard of a "Good Man" and settle for less. Every person deserves someone who respects them, and with love comes respect. I remember hearing similar statements from family and friends after they met my husband, especially from those who were single. Nonetheless, I didn't care, simply because I married a man who is Respectful, Trustworthy, Confident, Ambitious, Good Looking and knows who he is in God.To my singles, and those who experienced this before, I've got news for you." Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres." In other words Love = Whipped.

You don't have to take my silly advice. But, I believe as women, we should desire someone who knows how to love and exudes the characteristics of love. Disrespect and Pride do not make a man strong. Neither does commitment issues. It's a mask for their weaknesses. Money or materialistic things do not make a man more manly either. These things come and go, and little do you know that money does not make a happy relationship. Choose wisely sistas! 

To that Strongman. Keep on being kind. Keep on being respectful and exuding the characteristics of love. Your future daughters and sons have a great role model. To that wise woman. Keep on loving and respecting that strong man. To my wonderful husband Aaron Johnson, we're equally whipped and I appreciate and love you for being the strong and amazing Husband that you are.